Well, give me some credit. At least I broke off the engagement. And the sex issue aside (which I thought/hoped we could work on), at least in the beginning, I think that things were going fairly well with F.
When we started dating, he was great with my son -- doing a lot more dad-type things with my son than my son's own father (who at the time was generally in a drunken stupor) . It was F who taught my son to ski and to rollerblade and who would play catch with him in the yard.
It was only after his ex-wife started going to court and threatening to move out of state with his kids that F began taking it out on my son. And it was at that point that I put my foot down and kicked him to the curb.
Also when I first met F, he had a great consulting job with a dot com and was making tons of money and seemed to have a good work ethic. It was only later, that he decided that he just didn't *feel* like working any more.
So, I think this is actually an example of me setting clear boundaries and taking care of myself and my son.
When the situation degenerated, I got rid of F with no compunction and few regrets. Really, the only thing I miss about him are his kids, who I felt very close to, and his cooking (which was superb).
So, in my mind, anyway, this is an example of me acting in a healthy and self-protective manner.
