Hmmm... I wonder if you ARE having an orgasm... It occurs to me that if you were, you WOULD know what all the fuss was about. That doesn't necessarily mean you would want to have sex with your H, but you would understand the exquisite physical sweetness, the utter delicious release of a good O, whether he does it or whether you do it yourself. There is a type of O that is more of a "sneeze of the loins" (to quote some writer or other). That's not the kind that all the fuss is about. The other kind is what I would call "exploding into sweetness and then dissolving into sweetness." Even a solitary one can be like that.
Hmm...I was thinking the same thing Lil. I can't grasp the "what's all the fuss about" mentality.
If men can make themselves happy, then why do we need women? I would LOVE to be able to meet all of my own needs, because then I would be COMPLETELY happy. If divorce is not an option, and cheating is not an option, then how do I meet ALL of my own needs, assuming that my wife never changes. How does a man achieve complete happiness without a lover/soulmate? I am already filling my life with children, family, friends, job, and other activities, but NONE of them fulfills my most important needs. These are all MINOR needs in my life. Can HD people be completely happy without significant love lifes?
Still out there assuming your W will never change. Why don't you throw in there too "assuming I never change"? Because really....that's where your stuck my friend. You won't change but you expect your W to....or at the very least for her to change first.
Not being completely familiar with your situation, why is divorce not an option? Or are you speaking hypothetically? You make that statment with such certainty.
Sorry if most of you know the answer to this through your time on this BB, but I am still learning who the people in the community are and their histories.
Some of your posts to LD women are warranted. They need to see how badly they are hurting there H's. I even enjoyed a couple recently
But when you make a post that is so anti-thetical to what is biologically and pyschologically appropriate to a R, Im not gonna let it slide. It gives me pause on occasion, when I see F's respond with comments about thats what they want from there H's, in response to my posts, because they are doing what you are and not looking within to make themselves healthier and more attractive. But its coed around here, so oh well.
Can HD people be completely happy without significant love lifes
Cemar. your fixated. you need help. you need to explore the concepts of rewiring your thought processes. I dont care how you do it. Tony robbins. Religion. martial arts. LSD. the DB BB. Self esteem coaches. But untill you do that, I see no reason to respond to any question you pose to me. Your looking for validation from me, and its not gonna happen.
You ask me a real question, and have a real conversation with me or anyone else here, Ill be impressed. Untill then I just feel sorry for you. You could get anything you wanted with that stubborn will of yours if it was positively and proactively focused. What a waste.
Lots of reasons to not divorce. Mainly religous and because of the kids. I am a fairly devote Lutheran, and till death do you part has always been fairly important to me. What's more important, making myself happy, or pleasing God. Then there are the kids, and it will be 8 years until the smallest one leaves home. Just because I am unhappy does not mean that they should not have a complete family. Just have to look at my wife to see the negative impacts of divorce on her to see that it will not help the children. And then there is financial, I may be better off financially for the rest of my life staying married if that makes any sense. Literally, most of the assets in our marriage are contributed by me, which I would lose half of if I divorce.
And probably the best reason to not divorce is that divorce is the EASY option. Fixing a marriage is almost always harder then just divorcing (and divorce is no cake walk). It's just that if divorce is a viable option, it will usually be THE option that is chosen.
