Here is my suggestion on the no-follow-through: Hire someone to finish the projects he doesn't. Do not wait for him (and whatever you do, do NOT nag him!! That sets you back forever), just take care of it. If there is no money to pay a handyman, well, then hubby can get a second job.
Secondly, I would be VERY careful about talking about follow through, unless you are a champ-een follow througher. What I'm saying is, read back through any HD person's thread and I'm sure you will see about a zillion and one 'promises' from the LD partner that either things will be better, or "I don't want to ML tonight but tomorrow I will" (and then no follow through on that). See what I mean? BOTH parties are usually not following through with each other and ultimately draining each other's love tanks and then using other things to passive aggressively get back at the other. You withhold sex, he gets lazy..it's a vicious circle.
