2x a month makes for a very grumpy GGB. I need 2-3x a week minimum to keep on an even keel. Several of the other guys on here have said the same. When MrsGGB is stepping up to the plate sexually, I am much more pleasant to be around, and more inclined to go out of my way to meet her needs (she is an acts of service person, and acts of service to me seems more like what you do for a charity than a statement of love, but I am working on it). Sparkless, if you haven't already why don't you and your H sit down and take the love languages quiz to find out what your respective love languages are. If nothing else, it may help you to see where each other is coming from. Having different love languages can be extremely frustrating at times. I've noted here in the past that there are times when you wish you had someone who was fluent in your love language. When there is no overlap, it is not unlike being in a foriegn country where you don't know the language and you find you have to work very very hard to understand as well as to be understood. If your spouse is not also making that effort, then it can be very lonely.
