I was mainly trying to point out that Cemar tends to paint himself into a corner with making his statements in such absolutes. I, for one, am very sorry that so many of us are here instead of having great marriages, fun, sex and everything we so fervently want. I have found that sometimes the biggest barrier to getting what I want - is me. My point was more for Cemar than yourself. Cemar - get a grip buddy - EVERYONE is, in part, defined by their sexuality (yes LD people too), it isn't JUST men. Mrs. Cemar is a sexual being too. Maybe if you gave some thought as to why she is defining herself and her sexuality in terms of having no desire you might get somewhere. It is not because she is a woman.
Sparkless,
My concern for you is that maybe libido isn't really the problem. How would anyone have a libido for their H with things being as you describe? It only makes sense. Maybe you start with the R issues first and worry about the libido later?
