Does the dog ever catch it's tail?

[MJontheMend]

I think one way to think about your situation would be to realize that acting out your low sex drive is a form of self-destructive behavior. The reason I call it self-destructive behavior is because it is behavior that is destructive to something YOU want which is a happy marriage. By analogy, if I want a healthy body than I frequently have to do something which I don't want to do which feels unnatural to me such as not eating cookies or exercising . I could come up with a million excuses or rationalizations to justify my behavior when I overeat. I could even blame my H by thinking "It's your fault I can't lose weight because you always bring junk food in the house." or " The reason I can't lose weight is you make too big of an issue about it and that makes me feel bad and therefore I have to eat even more.". I think what Corri is trying to tell you is that working on being more sexually receptive or responsive when you are feeling LD is like dieting when you are hungry. It sux at first but after a while if you persist, you can develop new habits and new mindsets. If you don't think this is true, then you are telling yourself that you are a person who is incapable of changing even if you want to.