CeMar, you have me thinking now about goals. I've never really thought about our marriage that way. I think it would be a good discussion for me and H to have actually.
Corri, I have seen a doc about my problem and the tests showed that all my hormones except for thyroid and estrogen are below 'normal' levels. Iron was also low and I gather that may be a side affect of the abnormally heavy and extended menstruation periods these low hormone levels have given me (sorry guys). Unfortunately they had no advice or medication (except for taking more iron tablets) so I am travelling the natural route by taking some herbs. Gotta be better than nothing.
GEL, I think a lot of the trouble with the touching of the breast(s) is that with my H it is SO obviously a sexual manouevre. It's like he's saying 'come on then, how about it?'. NOT a turn on. Most often there is no nice cuddling or words first, it's just straight for the boob. I will try Corri's experiment next time we get a chance. H got home late and I was pretty much asleep by the time he crept in.
I thought I would make an effort affection wise and cuddled up to him after the alarm went off. After a while he started trying to move my legs around so he could move in closer. I feel like a rag doll when he does that so I moved my legs back and he go out of bed, cranky. He complains that I don't give him enough affection but when I do it's not enough. He says all he wants sometimes is hugs and kisses but he always pushes for more.
When he gets home from work I will try and talk to him tactfully about it.
Sorry if my posts seem disjointed sometimes. My kids are usually running around and it's very distracting.
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
He says all he wants sometimes is hugs and kisses but he always pushes for more.