Quote: Herein is the conundrum. If two people (or one even) in a marriage are showing their partner love in a way that makes them uncomfortable, how can this be a good thing? What is being achieved? Shouldn't they work on ways that are beneficial for both parties?
Yes! People have a specific love langauge and I would guess that your husbands is physical touch (common for men) and that yours is something else like Quality Time or Acts Of Service. EACH of you must learn to speak the others love language. You say you love your husband, but yet you do not show him love in HIS love language, so in effect, he sees no love.
From what I see here, you would like to basically give up sex. You are asking your husband to give up his #1 need. Is this a realistic expectation? How do you thnk that will make him feel? Does he have the right then to ask you to give up your #1 need as well? Do you see the need for sex as not being a valid need?
