Quote: IF your H were to give up trying to feel loved by you and go have an affair, I seriously doubt that you would care if he cleaned the toilet. You would probably just be happy when he came home. You would probably feel and think things like 'but he promised', 'he told me he loved me', 'why didnt he try to make me understand harder', 'he said he would take care of us' and feel very bitter about all of it.
My H wouldn't come back. I wouldn't let him back in the door. Why couldn't he just clean the toilet in the first place?
Anyway, joking aside if our marriage got to the point where H was looking elsewhere it wouldn't be worth saving. He just is not that type of guy.
Quote: Did you tell you H I am going to cut you off after we have a child, and I am a SAHM, because you wont clean the toilet? Thanks for the child, thanks for supporting us, but I dont love you because you dont clean the toilet.
Are you serious? I'm not psychic, are you?
Did my H tell me that when we got married he would impregnate me 5 times and only have 2 children and that it would really screw up my hormones? Did H tell me that once the baby/ies came along that he would want sex whether I did or not? Did H tell me that he would go into fits of rage if he did not get sex on a regular basis? NO.
The thing here is that I know that it would have been impossible for him to tell me because he had no way of knowing. Trying to predict the future is like trying to change the past. It can't be done. I'm just trying to get through today a bit better than yesterday.
Damn, I wish I was me with my H's libido...
(is that better? lol)
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
