Sorry, but I didn't realise that marriage was a game. Doesn't feel like it.
So what you are saying is you are aroused by the sight of a man cleaning a toilet?
I dont believe this. I believe you 'feel' disrespected because you H is not hearing what you need from him. Because of this feeling you are forcing him to respect that which you do have control over. Your body.
Understood.
However that passive aggressive conflict avoidance does in fact make you a game player.
IF your H were to give up trying to feel loved by you and go have an affair, I seriously doubt that you would care if he cleaned the toilet. You would probably just be happy when he came home. You would probably feel and think things like 'but he promised', 'he told me he loved me', 'why didnt he try to make me understand harder', 'he said he would take care of us' and feel very bitter about all of it.
Did you make this clear to your husband BEFORE you got married? If not, your changing the rules of the game in the middle of the game
This is a true statement. Did you tell you H I am going to cut you off after we have a child, and I am a SAHM, because you wont clean the toilet? Thanks for the child, thanks for supporting us, but I dont love you because you dont clean the toilet.
I wish I was a nympho
people practice at things they wish to become. again I dont believe you, and even if it is the truth, no you dont.
