Yes, beds are for sleeping. They are also for making love. It should be a healthy mixture of both. But if it is only for sleep, then really the two people involved could sleep separately anywhere and get the same effect.
Quote: I guess I feel that my body is mine and it is my call where and when I want to be touched in a sexual way.
Did you make this clear to your husband BEFORE you got married? If not, your changing the rules of the game in the middle of the game.
Quote: I understand that my H feels unloved and undesired but the truth is I don't desire him in a sexual way. This does not mean I do not love him.
Yes, you believe that you love him. The problem is that men do not distinguish between love and desire (it's in the books). I know that it would be impossible for me to love a women and NOT desire her. So when a man sees that his wife does not desire him, then he will see this as the lack of love.
On the one hand you say you love your husband, but at the same time, you are unable to show him love in his love language, why? Remember, when you give love, you must give it the way your spouse wants to receive it. The way that YOU want to give it is totally irrelevant. The same goes for him as well.
