I actually meant more over the long-haul. What if you just ignored lame advances for several nights, weeks, monthes in a row and didn't initiate yourself. Do you think that he would eventually come on stronger? I've found that to some extent I can trade-off frequency for "show of manly desire" in my relationship. Unfortunately, I think this is due to the fact that if I don't complain about frequency my H starts to wonder what I'm up to.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
