H has that same gap between thought and action. He can think of many sexy scenrios I'm sure. He uses some kind of fantasy to MB with and I'm certain that it isn't just some uncomfortable, him/me, vanilla sex scenario either. Does he act on those fantasies/scenarios - No! I I told H that I wasn't wearing any panties I would probably get the cold shoulder too - probably H would stay up late watching Star Trek until I eventually had to turn in, then he would come in and snuggle up saying "I love you" in my ear while rubbing my thigh as he drifts to sleep. Not really very funny at all is it?