Have you tried responding to his "rose petals" scenario with a specific more aggressive type scenario. For instance, instead of saying "I don't want rose petals, I want more heat and aggression." say "I would like for you to do something like walk up behind me unexpectedly while I'm emptying the dryer and pin me up against the machine while you kiss my neck and manhandle my breasts and then pick me up and put me over the edge of the machine while hoisting my skirt and pulling down my panties with one swift motion and then....."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
