Been there with H many times. H is sure I want us to have a "perfect" life, a "perfect" R. I'm sure the rose petals thing is something my H thinks too. It isn't an actual behavior that your H is expressing. It is a metaphor for what you want. "Wanting the rose petals on the bed" just means that he knows you want some indefinable thing that he isn't delivering. It is simply the only way he can think of to say it. However, I do like your response of "I don't want any friggin rose petals." I woulda said the same thing!
