It does sound a lot like stress talking here. I feel that a large burden IS put on the HD spouse: bring the sexual heat, make the HH pleasant to live in, help take stressors off the LD mate, speak their LL, provide arousal so they feel desire etc.... The list is really endless. I'm not sure I have anything kind or uplifting to say about this subject. I DO feel that your current pique about this will subside when your stress does.
