Quote: When he says he is afraid to approach you after being apart for a while, could he be experiencing the same fears he felt as a child when wondering how to please his father?
Possibly, who knows.
I can guarantee one thing, though: He would *never* put anyone else off to the extent that he does me. He has said this. He would not consider for one moment ignoring anyone else, only me. This both flatters me and infuriates me, as you can imagine!
His dad is really healthy and in good shape. Very active. I can't imagine that H is worrying about him. He claims to be a very simple sort of person who would not make the mental leap from watching my dad die to worrying about his own father. On the occasions when I've tried to 'dig deep' and ask him about his deep feelings, he just shrugs and says that he's really not the sort to ponder that stuff. The natural reaction to this is to assume that he's hiding himself, or too shy to become vulnerable but after living with him all these years I can say that he does show his vulnerability when the urge strikes him, but it is just very rare.
He's more of a 'typical' guy who has a hard time accessing his deeper emotions. Also typical in the sense that if he thinks he is failing me in some regard, he retreats into his shell and ignores it altogether.
I used to think that the Mars/Venus books didn't apply to us whatsoever, based on the fact that I have a higher drive than him, but nowadays I'm not so sure. He sure acts like a dude, and I can get emotional with the best of em.
At any rate, if one was a people pleaser don't you think that would include a desire to do things that the aforementioned people WANT? That's the part I don't get.
One inkling that he's failed or is about to fail and he disappears (figuratively, of course).
