He has maintained, over the years, that he is unable to be the alpha male. I don't remember why. The more he digs in his heels, the less sexually assertive *I* become. So you can see that we are entrenched in our own battle of the wills, as you and yours are.
I think I recall discussion some time ago about your H’s family and how he tries to be the pleaser, making everyone else happy at his own expense. I know you two have talked about this but could there be more bubbling under the surface? When he says he is afraid to approach you after being apart for a while, could he be experiencing the same fears he felt as a child when wondering how to please his father?
Also, could he be worried about his dad now that your dad has passed?
