Chocolove,
Ya know........I don't know if I've told him that. I agree that me saying, "I know I've changed the rules on you..." is much more powerful than merely changing the rules and expecting him to catch on. Which of course he has--he's no dummy. But for me to acknowledge the changeup would be good; I think you're right about that.

He has maintained, over the years, that he is unable to be the alpha male. I don't remember why. The more he digs in his heels, the less sexually assertive *I* become. So you can see that we are entrenched in our own battle of the wills, as you and yours are.

Oh well, it'll either work itself out or we will just mutually give up and accept it as is. Either way, it's not a bad life. I have a loving husband who is devoted to me so I can't complain too much. Also I have to remain positive or Lillie'll come after me. (kidding)

Adios,
H.