Hiya, Hornypot! Sorry to hear your sitch isn't any better.

All of this talk about "lions" and "lionesses" and "antelopes" has me wondering if there's any room in the Sexual Universe for a lovable labrador retriever like me??

I do think you have "changed the rules" on your husband. But while there is an element (even a very STRONG element) of "unfair" to that, I also know from reading your posts over the past two years that it is very genuinely who you are at this point. Needing him to be all male, and to want to want you, and the challenges and frustrations unique to the HD female, is the undercurrent to most of your posts.

One thought: have you TOLD him that? That you fully realize that you "changed the rules" on him, and that it must seem disorienting and even sometimes unfair to him, but it is nevertheless who you are, and what you need?

I know you've told him LOADS about what you need, but I'm just wondering if you ever acknowledged to him that you realize that you changed the rules on things somewhere along the line.

My wife and I constantly have these arguments where she'll suddenly change her mind about something -- even something pretty big -- and when I say anything like "but I thought you felt thus-and-such," or "but I thought we agreed that so-and-so", she gets irate and says "See? I can NEVER change my mind with you!"

Well, after having the 22nd version of that same fight one day, I came to her later and said "You know what? I know you are allowed to change your mind. All I ask is that you don't insult my intelligence by starting a conversation about something pretending that your new position is what it's always been. Just say 'You know Choc., I've been thinking about this, and the more I think about it, the more I now feel so-and-so,' and I'm fine with that. That's all."

And so now that's what she does, and when she doesn't, I remind her, and I try and respect her right to change her mind. It's helped.

Chocolate, who's fighting the urge to shout "Eat me!" and "Taste me!" to all of the HD ladies here today.