Quote: I feel you need to explain to your H that you are feeling down and that you could use some physical comfort.
The thing that bothers me about this approach is that it seems to make hp's need for physical contact something vaguely bad that needs fixing, correcting, rescuing, kwim? Presenting the need/desire for sex/physical contact as "being down," "depressed"-- although it probably would appeal to the rescuer big strong man in her H, it feels icky to me. (I've gone down this road myself.)
I agree that he may interpret hp's lack of enthusiasm in a rejecting way and might respond by "not wanting to bother her" and make it worse. But to take the position "I'm depressed and need you to make me feel better" isn't a good route-- it seems to make sexual desire into some kind of pathology that needs medicine to make it go away.
Edited to add- I know the HP household is dealing with sadness and grief, I just hate to see sex per se get mixed up in that.
