Quote: If JJ had said "Clearly, this isn't working ME . We haven't had sex in 6 months. Would you like me to help you find an apartment?". I can see that as a practical application of getting/making/having the LD leaving. It still has elements of not wanting to be the bad guy unless it was agreed on in advance. You did say you told your H something like this by saying you might leave the R after the kids were out of school if the R went back to being less sexual past some point.
I just wanted to have everyone see that ownership, by inserting the word ME is important and clearly explained.
I see/feel hints of not wanting to be the bad guy pop up often on the forum to often.
This is a good point. I guess the reason I am assuming that it isn't working for "us" rather than just "me" is that most LD spouses say that they are unhappy in the relationship too. So maybe what I'm really saying is if that situation developed there would be nothing further that I would be willing to do to save the relationship so there would be no reason for me to be angry.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
