You said: And in my case, it's not so much that I want the sexual activity (if I wanted it, I could initiate it, and he would be fine with that). I want to FEEL wanted. I want him to act like he finds me desirable. I want this so *I* can feel okay about myself.
You also added: There is too much that I like about this R to just throw it over because of the lack of IC and lack of all the stuff that the HD men on this board do to their LD wives (nuzzling while they're engaged with knives and steak in the kitchen, copping a feel while they're on the sofa watching tv, rolling over and stabbing them in the hip with the goods in bed, rubbing their backs, drawing baths for them, patting them on the a$$, etc.).
Everything you mention here about wanting to be wanted, desired, IC, foreplay (copping a feel, patting your a$$,etc)are all sexual in nature and you say want to find a way to get around this aspect of your relationship because everything else is good.
So my question is, what can your BF do to make you feel desired, loved and wanted, outside the realm of normal sexual behavior. Maybe this is the answer you are looking for??
