I hear ya, dafty... it makes sense... the only thing keeping me from doing that is... what? am I head over heels in love with him? no. Our life together is perfect EXCEPT for the IC. If I initiated other sexual activity, he would go along with it.
This is why I'm so interested in how Mojo got okay with wanting sex less.
And in my case, it's not so much that I want the sexual activity (if I wanted it, I could initiate it, and he would be fine with that). I want to FEEL wanted. I want him to act like he finds me desirable. I want this so *I* can feel okay about myself. Maybe that's not very differentiated, but that's the way I feel. The fact that it's NOT very differentiated makes me wonder if I should do something about my attitude, a la Mojo. Hence my presence on her thread (and this hijack of sorts).
There is too much that I like about this R to just throw it over because of the lack of IC and lack of all the stuff that the HD men on this board do to their LD wives (nuzzling while they're engaged with knives and steak in the kitchen, copping a feel while they're on the sofa watching tv, rolling over and stabbing them in the hip with the goods in bed, rubbing their backs, drawing baths for them, patting them on the a$$, etc.). The fact is I've never been in a R where the sex was good for the long haul. I have no reason to believe that at this stage of my life and emotional/spiritual maturity that I'm capable of attracting a man with whom I could have such a R.
Therefore at the moment I've chosen to hang around and work on my attitude. Working on one's attitude is hardly ever the wrong thing to do. I do appreciate your comments, sis.
