No Longer Sex-Starved

[MJontheMend]

Now that you are back I have it easy...all I have to do is just do the opposite of you...of course this is fusion with you but who cares, lol.

LOL too.

I think it's interesting to note that as you became more assertive you became more HD and as I became less assertive I became more LD. Finding the balance can be tough.

One thing I've been pondering lately is the issue of feminism as it relates to HD/LD. It's kind of interesting how both LD and HD women can use feminism to support their POV. For instance, LD women on the BB have made arguments along the lines of "I shouldn't have to have sex just because my husband wants me to. I'm not his chattel.That's archaic!" and I might make the argument "I should have the right to express my sexuality freely and initiate any time I want to. I shouldn't have to sit like a modest little china doll on the shelf waiting for my husband. That's archaic!".

I used to think that LD women who made the first argument were pathetic. From my POV, this argument was made from a position of assumed powerlessness and therefore reinforced sexual stereotypes. It seemed nonsensical to me unless you pictured the husband as a completely violent brute. I would think "Clearly as a modern woman in our modern society, you don't have to have sex with your husband, but you don't have the right to expect him to be happy about it."

I couldn't see the lack of sense in my own HD stance along the lines of "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.". Clearly, as a modern woman in our modern society, I can express my sexually freely and initiate sex at will but I don't have the right to expect that I'll get the reaction that I might want.