Why do you think your body needs sex more than your testosterone-loaded H's body needs sex? I would guess the answer is that your H is constantly sublimating his sex drive and you are rarely sublimating yours. I think there are two good reasons why you don't sublimate your sex drive (based on the assumption that you are like me ). The first good reason is you believe sex is a good thing and therefore having a strong sex drive is a good thing so why should you want to sublimate your drive. The second good reason is you think it would be wrong to sublimate your sex drive. The reason you think it would be wrong is that by consciously sublimating your sex drive you would be making yourself more LD and unlike a "naturally" LD person, you would be doing it intentionally and therefore it would be a mean, selfish thing to do.
I guess my scientific theory which I've kind of proven to be true for myself is that if you only have a female size helping of testosterone, if you don't pump up the volume by thinking about sex, you probably won't end up being all that distracted by your purely physical drive. Though really the same is probably true for any guy who doesn't have moral compunctions regarding MB.
So, how do you stop thinking about sex? First, tell yourself that the message that your H is giving you with his LD behavior is that he would like to be in charge of driving the sexual car. That means that your sex life is his responsibility and you are now free to concern yourself with other things. For instance, you could start day-trading on the stock market or you could become obsessed with breeding dahlias. You will find that it is very hard to spend a lot of time thinking about something if you feel like it is beyond your control or not your responsibility. I mean even if you really like the sun, you probably don't spend a lot of time thinking about the weather and even if you are very neat, you let the garbage man deal with the trash. Even if it rains for 20 days straight there ain't much you can do about it and even if the garbage man goes on strike it still isn't your job to drive the truck -so why worry about it?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
). The first good reason is you believe sex is a good thing and therefore having a strong sex drive is a good thing so why should you want to sublimate your drive. The second good reason is you think it would be wrong to sublimate your sex drive. The reason you think it would be wrong is that by consciously sublimating your sex drive you would be making yourself more LD and unlike a "naturally" LD person, you would be doing it intentionally and therefore it would be a mean, selfish thing to do.