Old age is so sad.

[Baltoman]

I'm not saying you are wrong, just trying to give you a different perspective.

My W got the flowers today and no I won't be pressuring her for sex as I'm going out with a friend from out of town tonight. She asked why did I get them for her. I said the reason is on the card (I pretty much used your words, just rearranged them. Thank you very much). My son asked who they were from. I think he was worried that mom had a BF.

My only thing I was trying to get across is if your H's hands would be wandering with or without the nice gesture, then the nice gesture isn't simply to get sex. You know you aren't in a position to believe that, so you already have done the hard part of acknowledging your bias. As long as you are aware that it exists, you can respond accordingly.