After a nice hour or a nice jesture. Do your hands give your intent away? H's does which makes everything nice no longer a nice. Could I see other wise not at this point no I will give you that. Because the past proves different and when the same things lead to the same actions on his part in my mind there is no difference. This is one of those things that as I stated will take me a long time to change my opinion of. Hence the lack of pressure for sex is the only way I will be able to see this as different. And I don't see my H as having this in him.
I am glad to hear about the flowers did your wife like them? was she surprised? Did you try to have sex last night? Pressure your wife in any way so she would think hmmm the flowers were just forplay?