You pretty much just asked yourself what I was going to, but I was going to put it this way.... What would your H need to do in order for you to feel safe with him? Is it realisitic to believe he would ever be able to do the things to make you feel safe, i.e. do you think he would do them?
I'm not asking if you think it would be fair to ask him to do what you need to feel safe, I'm asking do you really think he could/would be able to do those things....on a continuing basis (because that's what it would take for you to find some sense of security) every day?
As I see it....if you can't answer yes honestly to that question....you know what your future will remain if you stay where you are at, you are living it now.
