Would I consider this. Yeah if the cost is not much (finances cant stand much more of a strain around here) Would my H probably to appease me. But in a group of people open up and talk about our problems no so if that is part of the program that would be a part he would rebel against and not go into with a open mind.
Oddly right now I do not know how open minded I am being about fighting this fight anymore. And I can see that. I just have come to a place I want more then this and I don't want to spend years trying to get it. When the odds are already stacked against it ever happening. And the past 16 years do tend to sway my opinion in that direction. And I am not just talking about in my relationship but my life in general. But my H and his temper and his views taint my ability to live life to my version of full. Friends family activities and so forth. Individualism is a word the sums it up and still does not sum it up.
Something Cobra said in a post to Bube struck home with me. Cannot think of what exactly it was right now but it was profound. Made me take pause.
Also when thinking about if my H was to leave I realized it might just be the push I need to overcome this depression by forcing me out of my comfort zone. His being her and our problems enable my depression to breed/feed and me to surcome to it. If he was not here I would have to get up everyday I would have to do all the things I don't right. That may be a very positive thing for me.
Well my son leaves for a field trip at 4 so I must end to get him where he needs to be.
If you have more info on the retreat I would be willing to run it past my H and see what he says about it.
