RE chrissy I told him that even with him lying there holding me it was like I was all alone. He said he did not understand I told him I know and there within lies the problem.
Chrissy, sorry you are feeling this way. I try to imagine how the type of things affect you. It realls sounds sad and I am sorry I can't do more than offer a little cyber understanding. If I (and others here) could be that little man standing on his shoulder, telling him what to do, I would. That only happens in books/words, dreams, and movies.
Please keep posting what you feel. The good and the bad.
About your son and sex and turning that around to the real issue, not that sex is bad but that he needs to wait. Yes girls do get PG and he needs to wait until he can physically and emotionally support a wife and baby.
As a young male, I never got it why some guys would want to accidently make a baby but not support it.
I suppose some guys only think sex is just what they get from the experience of intercourse. It takes maturity to realise that sex is much more comlpicated than hormonal drives.
I may have a different take on sex but have almost always thought, if I were the accidental baby, would I want this woman to be my mother, this guy to be my dad, are the ready now to be parents. If no to any of the above, sex was too risky. Did I stick to this? Not 100%.
You might tell my thoughts (in your way) to your son to help him see the seriousness of sexual relationships. He is going to form his own opinion from the things he hears, reads, sees, and experiences.
I know most parents want the best for their kids so I wrote the above. I wish I had some advice or words to help you to advance your feelings about your H's hands on the crotch and breast to some resolution that you would feel better with. Right now the kid stuff is all I have.
