I think the thing many of us battle with in our R's is that with truly accepting the R (or your H) as is comes the feeling too that your are giving up on something you want.
Yep that is it! I feel like there should be more to it then this. It should mean more then this.
The thought of never being touched by this person again should make you sad the thought of them dying should create total despair. When you have been seperated for days there should be a sense of longing for the other even if it is as simple as hearing there voice. If you get a promotion you feel eager to tell the other person and on and on
Those are the emotions I want to feel in my relationship. And ones that are not there so I feel like I am giving up on something I really want more of!