Why do you say your H doesn't accept you for who you are, how exactly do you think he wants to change you? What is it about him that you cannot accept?
You do realize that it's not your sole responsibility to find the "connection" in this R don't you? You come across to me as taking on the entire responsibility for you not having a "connection".....YOU can only do so much in that department. There are two people here....sometimes, two people just aren't fit for each other.
You say you have an H who loves you, adores you,....but doesn't accept you as you are and wants to change you? You also don't accept him as he is. I repeat, how does he want to change you? How is it changing the fundamental you and who Chrissy is?