Get a job. Take no notice of H and his dumb conditions, just get yourself a job for YOU. Once you have a job H can just live with the situation. Sure he will bitch about it but take no notice. Or just say *you wanted me to have a job, I have a job. The perfect job doesn’t just fall from a tree*
My H was bitching about me sitting round the house all day (grrrrrr!), so when a friend offered me a job I took it. It is perfect. My friend was very accommodating about the hours and the job is in my field and just what I need to start back on the career road again after 6 years as SAHM. My self-esteem is way back up, I don’t sit around all day thinking about H and how much he gets me down.
H still bitches, now he bitches about the stuff that doesn’t get done because I am working and spending less time at home. Having spent years on the *what the heck do you do all day* mantra. You just can’t win with some people so my philosophy is don’t even try. Look at what you need to do for YOU. Don’t worry about spiting him or doing something just because he says not to. Ignore him (either way) and do it for you.
Take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
You just can’t win with some people so my philosophy is don’t even try. Look at what you need to do for YOU. Don’t worry about spiting him or doing something just because he says not to. Ignore him (either way) and do it for you.