Hi there...also facing a similar facet of your sitch's. H seems ambivalent (confused) and neither committing, neither walking away. I fear that he is just waiting for me to get sick of everything, and say, I've had enough so he won't feel guilty of being the one to cut the cord. So, he doesn't try very hard either, to make me believe that it's over. On the other hand, he fully admits he's still confused and something holding him back from committing fully.
I take it as him needing space to sort out his feelings and pain. I can understand. When this all exploded, I just pushed hard for "fixing" and pulled him through. Wrong. Now, I've completely backed off, and am taking time to figure out who I want to be, what I used to be, what I want in a M, and just being nice and caring and loving to H. Like Mr MD said, pushing the positive buttons.
Remember, you are a wonderful, worthy, valuable woman. You have lots to give and you are above being insecure, worried and frustrated. You are happy with yourself, so forget the rest. It's not your problem. There WILL be a day when your H fully committs with words and love. Be patient. He is really confused...2 years is a long time to rip away from and long time to come back and figure out what you want. Remember, be patient, but also make sure you get in M what you wanted, and that he has changed as well. Support him in this.
