HP, here's another idea... I assume you have a copy of John Gottman's book "The 7 Principles that Make Marriage Work". I assume so, just given the amount of reading all of us here do. Anyway, if you don't, then get a copy. I've been re-reading it this week, and I think it could help you with your EC issue. Can't hurt, anyway...
GGB: taking the hijack about your W and her O-avoidance, you might want to read this just for your own enlightenment. Susie Bright is one of those authors I wish Ms.Hdog would read and take to heart; you know, "I am woman, let me O!"
And HP: I'm thinking the "Let Down" theory sounds possible. Patience, my friend.
Quote: Could that be at least part of the reason for your E-detached feeling?
Tim, I'm responding over here before JJ kicks me off her thread.
I think you are right. Also, I want to be comforted but not by talking about it. Kwim? What the heck is there to say? I just want his physical presence near me, by me, on me. And his face is in the tube! Although I must say that the last two nights he has not watched anything so perhaps we'll be able to construct a new routine that works for both of us.
I felt more connected last night but he's still in conflict avoiding mode. For once, I'm not stepping into my old "role". I'm just going to be and let it all unfold as it will.
Honey... One thing I feel you should be actively doing is filling your H in about how you are emotionally feeling...you know, having an intimate conversation. Let him into your world. I do think you shouldn't bail him out ( right now) in the physical dept ( which includes any personal act directed solely for you)...too much resentment there right now...although if he makes no move for some time then the confrontation process will have to begin again. let's see where he is at.
