I agree you are under alot of stress right now. But I think what you are experiencing is let down syndrome.
Baby pot needed you on a daily regular basis while you were breast feeding you recently weaned her and went through a slump. H has needed you to be his cheerleader and to pump his ego up for months now. You were getting fairly tired of it as I recall. But now all of a sudden H is not needing that same amount ego bulstering from you if I read you correctly. And now again you are falling into a slump.
You have had two forms of what has become normal/habitual forms of EC erased from your every day every hour routine just in a short period I would think it normal that even if it was tiresome at times to maintain these forms of EC that the lack of them will cause some disenchantment for a short period of time until the void is filled with another form of EC that becomes routine and habitual for a time.
I think your H is showing the growth that you had been wanting to see in him. Self assurance you prayed he would regain and unfortunately it seems like a lose of something to you instead of a opening for a chance to tend to yourself for a while. And for both of you to take a breath and relax for a short period of time before you start building that new form of EC. As we all know lifes dynamics are always changing. And you my dear woman have your hands full of changes in your life right now. You will figure out how to deal with them and get where you want to be. Not sure if my words are making my true meaning clear. Pretty much just a as soon as the dust settles you will start seeing the road more clear and restarting your journey down the path again type thing. You just have to hold out until the dust settles. And you always seem to be able to.
