Ok, lmdi, this is what I think. When you finally decide YOU'VE had enough, he will come running back. If he is THIS confused now, when you are still tossing him bones, I imagine he will be overwhelmed when you're truly not there for him. The bad/sad part is that you have to get there on your own, either because you just have had enough, or you decide to totally drop the rope. I don't think any amount of posting/reading can get you to that point. Tim finally got there and look what happened to him. Sure, your sitch is different, but really none of our sitches are THAT different from the others. They all involve somebody that left a relationship for soemthing they thougt was better and most of them will find out they're wrong. Your H seems like he may be one of the many that figures that out. Just a matter now of if he will figure it out in time.
I think you have to keep doing for you, which is really hard I know, but you know it's right. Get your apartment, make some new friends, do some new things, etc. All the usual DB stuff should apply here.
I hope you are well, and I will be thinking of you.
