Imdi99: Your H is being a dufus. Keep being strong and keep trying to GAL. Believe me, I know that is hard since I am trying to do so myself, but I completely feel your pain in everything you say...
I have been told that men in an affair are aliens and do not act the way that they should or even ever did. My H is acting like a loon as well...
I don't know if any of this makes you feel better, but you are not alone. Keep the hope - some days it is all you have...
