Here is my take on the ill feelings for the OW. I completely understand why you do Here's my analogy. Two people rob a bank. The 1st robber shoots and kills a teller the second does not shoot the teller however continues on with the robbery. In my eyes and actually the laws eyes they both are guilty of the murder. Did 2nd robber pull the trigger? No. Do we know if the second one was planning on pulling the trigger? No we don't. However what we do know is that both parties were fully aware of what they are doing and what the consequences may be. Therefore both parties should be held responsible for thier actions. Yeah our spouses are the one's who betrayed us but don't think for one second these low life's that are having the affairs with our spouses deserve any sort of amnesty for their actions. They are self centered human beings who have absolutely no morals.
