n retrospect, what I have learned is that my own fears of abandonment, led to my attempts to control and change my xw desire to separate. What I should have done, is show my love for her by setting her free. By not having any expectations of her, allowing her to discover who she was, and than letting her be that person.
My attempts to change my xw beliefs on separation and divorce were not coming from my love of her. These actions and behaviors were from my fears.
We can live and act from a belief in love and trust, or we can suffer in a world of fear and doubt. it's all a choice within our control.
