the long walk home in pieces.

[OneWish]

Frank, this woman is in the middle of the crisis of her life.

AmyC,

This post for Frank has really helped me see the bigger picture. I know that my wife wants OUR family back together. But right now she is scared and is in a crisis on deciding how will things be when we get back together. Will I ever go back to being a selfish attention seeking husband. Will I not be honest with her. I believe that my wife is just as scared as me. She doesn’t want to be responsible for breaking up our family. She has guilt.

Let the woman process. It means exactly what it sounds like. She's contemplating, she's remembering, she's considering, she's WATCHING YOU, she's grasping, she's learning, she's growing, she's getting to know herself, Frank. LET HER.

I feel that I am letting my wife do these things, but I am so afraid of the uncertainty.

Don't you understand how much better SHE (and therefore YOU) will be once she completes this cycle?

I pray that during this time, my wife can finally FORGIVE me for my mistakes and give me the clean slate that she said I need. It would joyful if we can have a clean slate and build our love from there.