What the hell happened to make you flip out like this? All right that is IT. No more handling you with kid gloves, Frank.
Frank, this woman is in the middle of the crisis of her life. All too well, I do relate to her in many ways. I am so sorry you are not getting the instant gratification you need or even the gratification you need in a reasonably short period of time. One thing though, I do understand why I was thinking about you earlier. I was wondering how long you have been married? It's over ten years isn't it? Yeah. So Frank, all things considered AND I DO MEAN ALL THINGS, 5 months, 6 months or 12 freakin months is a drop in the damn bucket compared to what you have shared and what you are trying to save. LET HER BE. Get a life, Frank. Let the woman process. It means exactly what it sounds like. She's contemplating, she's remembering, she's considering, she's WATCHING YOU, she's grasping, she's learning, she's growing, she's getting to know herself, Frank. LET HER.
You need to stop waiting for her to turn to you and say "honey, we are fine. Let's go on with our lives". You are in a holding pattern, Frank. And you know what, that is okay. Do you know that without the benefit of ANY support my husband waited for me, FOUGHT for me, for over 15 months! He had NO ONE. No message boards and no friends close enough that he confided in. You have been here as long as I have, Frank. About 6 months. Why is everyone in such a hurry to get this over with? Don't you understand how much better SHE (and therefore YOU) will be once she completes this cycle?
With all the years we all have invested in our marriages, I think the LEAST we can do is hang in there longer than 5 or 6 months.
Frank, instead of raging against this, maybe you could embrace it for the gift it may very well end up to be.
