Frank....vent your heart out. I so feel for you and am sad that you're going through this. I am so sorry.
I hope you get to a spot where you feel sort of healthy again...where you're not internalizing all that she does. Easier said than done, I know, but it's HER actions, and HER life. DO NOT take this as anything that speaks of you.
Vent, vent, vent. Let these feelings help you detach...you're getting there.
I'm also sad to read your post, because I just imagine the rage my H feels right now...though I did not do what your W did, I was pretty horrible with other things. Snaps me back to reality.
