hey Frank,

This right here is golden:

Her opinion about the 'downturn' in W's attitude is partly the influence of 'friends' and partly W becoming afraid that we were getting 'needy' for each other. So she may very well be detaching to see what I'll do. And what I've 'done' is get all worried and that sends her 'vibes' that I am still 'needy', which feeds the problem even more.

I am going to print that out with others I have so i can read them over and over.

You know one thing that I have been able to tell I am moving forward and getting Me back is teh amount of time it takes me to get my head on straight after pinging (AmyC).

Think about that one for a bench mark.

Shark


Me: 38
Wife: 39
Boys: 8 & 9
Married: 13 years