I hear ya on being tired...just pick up and go at it again.
You ARE a great guy! You have made tremendous changes and strides, that your W will no doubt see. Just remember, she has 5 years of memories to undo, and it takes time. Also, think of where you were months ago, she has come far...give it a little time. In the meantime, detach, be yourself and not needing her. Let her sort herself for now...don't drag yourself into it. You've spent lots of time figuring things out for YOU, you've done your work, don't undo it getting into her personal work.
If the IC sees both of you, then I think she would not be giving advice that would fly in the face of what W wants. So, if she's telling you to keep trying, then it means that there is hope with W?
Keep it up. Focus on the positives about YOU. Easier said than done, I know (having a frustrating night myself).
