Quote: Frank, Sorry if I was projecting too much, and I was not familiar with details.
No problem, you were still helpful.
Quote: You have the right track. Detach. She will come if she wishes...but remove yourself from the madness that is someone else's life. You have enough on your own plate.
Yeah, right now I'm staying in my out-of-the house office till later. I told her I needed to do some work (which is true) and she said sorry I would miss dinner. And of course told me to make sure I take care of myself and eat! She feels a little guilty because she knows I couldn't get anything done over the weekend because I had to be around for the kids, so SHE could work and make money. I told her it was silly of me to think I could work on the weekend, it hasn't happened so far!
So here I am. Trying to get stuff done but not having a lot of success. Too much other stuff on my mind. I figure I'll go home around 9:30. I know she'll be awake and the kids won't be. That will give me a chance to ignore her and see what she does.
Quote: If she has a meltdown again, be there for her, but, as you said, in a detached way. She has to learn to pick herself back up and be a happy person on her own, as we all do.
Yeah, I'd almost welcome a meltdown right now. At least then she'd move in some direction. Patience Patience.
Becca was willing to bet me today that she WILL come around and see that she's got a pretty good man here. We'll see.
