So, what have I learned so far this week? First, although I may seem elated, my real mood is one of cautious optimism - I want to see how long we can sustain this apparent progress. Although it seems real, I know I have been disappointed in the past, and I don't want to get ahead of myself with unrealistic expectations. But... two Golden Mondays in a row does seem like progress!
Second, MrsNOP's "I Want" list did go over very well indeed. It didn't come across as demanding or self-centered at all. I do believe W wants many of the same things. This is GOOD!
I haven't had any luck so far finding a C I think I can work with, and in truth, given our current progress, I've decided to hold off on that part of the plan, and see how far we can get on our own. W is onside with this as well. Time will tell if this is a mistake, but it won't be any harder to find a C a few weeks or months in the future as it is right now. Meantime, I'm also thinking that we have some data to gather - things seem to be changing right now, so I'm not even sure I'd be able to accurately present our sitch to a C.
Best of all, last night's bliss happened even though the initial indicators were not good. When W picked me up from work, her mood at that time was harried and grouchy. We had to run a few errands, and were late picking up S19 from the dentist, and supper was kind of hurried as well. We got past all that, though. Then, she was in a state of tiredness later in the evening that would ordinarily have spelled the end of any festivities, but to her credit, she followed through, and was a willing participant. BRAVO!
So, bottom line, she is REALLY stepping up to the plate, showing up for the game, and playing on my side. I feel heard and understood. What a great feeling!
