It doesn’t begin in the bedroom, F’ing might but sex begins long before that. It begins with a look in the grocery store, or picking out something that has meaning to the other person to wear. It is an attitude AND actions. Holding hands or a grope, even sliding your hand into the other persons back pocket while walking doesn’t necessarily have sexual connotations but doing lends to an overall feeling that leads to good sex.
The best sex I ever had started days earlier, with a promise , a kiss, and a look in the eyes that almost made me explode (That came later!!). I don’t know what was the bigger turn on the anticipation, or knowing that she was willing AND wanting.
Sex doesn’t stop with an orgasm either.. It should continue with the kisses and skin to skin connection. Pulling out , and jumping up to go to the bathroom is for a quickie not for good sex. Laying and kissing helps cap thing off like having the after dinner wine caps a fine meal. Sometimes the feelings are so strong that there are seconds.
What is my point? I think that many of the HD partners can’t figure out a way to get their partners to understand that the ‘action’ of ‘f’ing’ isn’t good sex, it is PART of good sex.
