Great to see you, gal! How ya been keeping? Better than me, I hope (until recently, that is).
Quote: I think what you might give thought to trying... is... instead of making your physical wishes known, perhaps you can explain that you would like "US" time (whether that is in the bedroom or not, but most certainly with the focus on one another... no t.v.). Not that you shouldn't say that you hope things will move in a physical direction, but that your primary focus is to 'connect' first. ????? ...<snip>... Perhaps at some point reassure her that not all physical contact must end in IC... perhaps a good make-out session with a massage... I don't know...
Yeah, I know... keep in mind I've left a LOT out, you're only gettin' a VERY small sample of what's been going on here. Rest assured that your suggestions are already part of my approach, and have been in my communications with her all along. My point always has been that it's not just about "the deed", but all the OTHER stuff that goes along with it. One thing about last night, we were watching TV before S14 went to bed, but the way we were watching was different. There was a level of non-verbal communication between us that hasn't been there in YEARS. Sparks were flying, and we were hugging and caressing in a way I've been longing for. It definitely added to my enjoyment of her and the evening, and is a LARGE part of why I'm feeling so good about it. And... the lovey-dovey stuff has continued into today. My comment about "direct communication" wasn't just about communicating about my physical desires, but also the other desires, as well as the subject of "where I'm at right now". As a fer-instance, one of the things I said to her Sunday night, in all seriousness was (and I quote): "I've gotten to the point where I don't really care any more which way things go, and trust me, you really don't want me feeling that way." And I meant it, and she knew I meant it. But it was said calmly, not coldly... I was simply letting her know that things were (are) serious - we're playing for keeps here, no time for fooling around.
Quote: My point being, she seems SOOOO eager to meet you half way, which to me seems much different than the woman we were dealing with in the past... help her help you through encouragement (but not letting her off the hook), saying please and thank you throughout the day, letting her know, in the little ways that even though you may sometimes seems surly, to please be patient, and that you will be likewise to her...?????
Great ideas on the counselors...
Actually, she met me WAY more than halfway last night, and we both know it. Therein lies a LOT of progress... another reason for my up-beat attitude today. I really do think things might have just turned a corner. I'll keep you up to date...
